Pregnancy is a beautiful and transformative journey, but for some, it can be a challenging time when coupled with an abusive relationship. Recognizing signs of abuse, seeking help, and finding support are crucial steps toward ensuring the safety and well-being of both the expecting individual and their unborn child.

One must first recognize the signs of abuse which can range from physical to financial. Physical abuse is exactly how it sounds; consisting of bruises, cuts, injuries or any type of physical harm done to you. Emotional and psychological kinds of abuse are a little harder to initially realize when in an abusive relationship. Behaviors such as constant belittling, criticism, humiliation, isolation from family/friends and manipulative behaviors are all signs of abuse. A third kind of abuse is sexual, and can happen whether you’re in a relationship or not. Sexual abuse consists of non-consensual sexual activities or forced sexual acts, and unwanted advances. Finally there’s financial abuse which is when a person has control over financial resources and limits access to money or ruins employment opportunities or financial stability for the other person. 

Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step in getting out safely. But now that you’re aware of the situation what do you do next? First off you should seek help. Reach out to someone you trust like a friend, family member or counselor regarding your situation. Let them know your worries and fears and that you’re looking for emotional support and guidance. Next contact a helpline or support organization like Options for Pregnancy or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Finally make sure to talk to your healthcare about your situation during prenatal visits. Your doctor can offer guidance, resources and assistance to help. 

After seeking help you’re going to need support to get through this challenging time in you and your baby’s life. Joining a support group is a great way to connect with others who have gone through or are going through the same situation as you. Reach out for legal assistance. Talk with a lawyer or legal aid to learn your rights, protection orders and legal options to make sure you and your child are safe. Finally consider therapy and counseling. It can help talking with an outsider about what you’ve gone or are going through. Therapy can help with processing trauma, developing coping strategies and regaining control over your life. 

Recognizing signs of abuse, seeking help, and finding support are critical steps in ensuring a safe and healthy pregnancy for both the expectant individual and their unborn child. No one should endure abuse alone—reach out, seek assistance, and create a supportive environment that nurtures both your physical and emotional well-being.

Remember, your safety and the well-being of your child are of paramount importance. You are strong, deserving of love and respect, and there are resources and individuals ready to support you on this journey toward a brighter, safer future.