If you are unexpectedly pregnant some of your first thoughts are surrounding how it will affect your current relationships. Your relationship with your significant other, your family, or your friends. It is without a doubt that your relationships with those close to you will change once you become a mother. It is most likely your hope that you will grow closer in those relationships.
Will there be moments of discomfort?
Maybe. Will you be able to move past those moments and turn it into a deeper relationship? Yes, if it is meant to be. When you are pregnant and in need of support this can be a trying on any relationship. However, there are a few ways to mitigate this and move into a closer relationship. Know that the way others offer their support to you may look different from person to person or how you may imagine support. This may also be evolutionary time as you are entering a new season of life whereas your friends are not. These relationships may fizzle but it may also open you up to new relationships.
At 18, I found out I was pregnant. I had already graduated high school and I still held onto the same friend circle from my freshman year. They were starting college and were focused on partying and their social lives. My friendship with them faded away before my baby was born. However, I gained a few other friendships that were far more meaningful and they were also new moms!
My relationship with my family changed as well. I was unable to support myself financially, my parents lived out of state so I moved in with my grandmother. I wanted so badly to be independent during those times which caused a struggle within myself. Looking back, I wish I would have told my grandmother how much of a positive impact she was on my life. I am forever grateful for her for opening her home to me. It was my expectations of how things ought to be that caused damage to my relationship with her. However, due to her forgiving nature and loving others first personality, it was her that caused us to grow closer