Feeling stressed? Regain some peace of mind with these simple tips.
Life is filled with various stressors. Women in particular often take on many responsibilities in their families, careers, and communities. These demands can lead to feeling stressed? Regain some peace of mind with these simple tips.

is filled with various stressors. Women in particular often take on many responsibilities in their families, careers, and communities. These demands can lead to elevated breathing and heart rate, chronic stress, and unhealthy coping mechanisms, harming our physical and emotional wellbeing in both the short and long term.

Addressing stress immediately is essential to stopping it. The sooner you identify the source, the easier it is to recover. A healthy mind is key to a healthy body. So take a breath, and consider implementing one of these tips into your weekly routine.

1. It’s okay to say “I’m not fine.”
Women tend to find emotional relief in sharing their feelings and experiences with others. Social support is essential to a woman’s sense of validation and peace. Next time a trusted friend or beloved family member asks how you’re doing, it’s okay to be honest. Whether you need advice, a good cry, or just an opportunity to talk it out, getting those negative feelings off of your chest can bring tremendous relief.

2. It’s okay to say, “no.”
It can be difficult to reject someone’s plea for help, especially when the request comes from a friend, family member, or coworker. But you can only stretch yourself so thin. Remember, it’s the quality of what you do that matters, not the quantity. Realistically evaluate your time constraints and pending tasks before accepting a new responsibility. It’s in everyone’s best interest, including your own, to only take on what you can handle.

3. It’s okay to take some time for yourself.
Everyone needs a break, whether it’s 20 minutes, a few hours, or a day off. If you’re strapped for time, consider taking a brisk walk, making sure you’re hydrated with a refreshing glass of water, or watching a funny video to relieve some frustration. If you have a bit more time available, take a warm bath with Epsom salts and relaxing music to rid yourself of tension. Escape with a massage or a movie. Whether you choose to exercise, journal, get a spa treatment, plan a night out, or enjoy a hobby – find what you enjoy and do it. Taking a break is a proven way to refresh your mind and body for increased productivity.

4. It’s okay to invest in rest.
Feeling groggy can really weigh you down during the most crucial and busiest times of your day. Take a 20-minute power nap for a quick pick-me-up. Or turn in early and start the next day sooner than normal. Your mind and body need sleep in order to be sharper, quicker, and more efficient. Scientifically speaking, your brain needs sleep to clear out toxins. So invest in your health and wellbeing by getting those 7-9 hours of sleep at night and taking a nap when you feel too sleepy to continue with your day.

5. It’s okay to take some time to plan ahead.
Prioritize and organize your life for a clearer mind and more productive day. The first way to implement this is by getting a daily planner. Write down all of your obligations ahead of time to better establish how much time you have and what more you can take on. Keep “to do” and grocery lists in your phone so you can quickly document ideas before you forget them. Other ways to improve your daily efficiency include choosing your clothes in the evening for the next day, prepping your meals for the week, and packing your bags and vehicle the night before work, meetings, classes, events, etc.

6. It’s okay to unplug.
Digital media is undeniably pervasive in all of our lives. There seems to be a screen everywhere we turn. Although they can be hard to avoid, consider personally unplugging for an hour or even a day. Turn off the news, take a social media sabbatical, or plug your phone in for a charge and walk away. Use this time to read a book, visit a friend, run an errand, or enjoy the fresh air outside and soak in some vitamin D. Your devices will be there when you return.

7. It’s okay to practice a bit of self-discipline.
When feeling pressured, it’s crucial to avoid unhealthy habits and coping mechanisms, especially when it comes to what you put in your body. Increasing your intake of water, fruits, vegetables, and other healthy foods can improve your energy levels and productivity. Take 30 minutes to exercise a few times a week and enjoy the rush of endorphins to power your next activity. When faced with that one task you’ve been dreading, tackle it head on and get it over with so you no longer have to worry about it. And even when it doesn’t come naturally, choose an attitude of gratitude. When you change your outlook with a few simple, positive thoughts, you’ll notice a remarkable change in your joy and motivation.

Although stress is a normal part of life, you don’t have to accept it. A positive state of mind can lead to a more productive, happy, and fulfilling life. With a few simple lifestyle choices and adjustments, you can considerably reduce the effects of stress in your life.
evated breathing and heart rate, chronic stress, and unhealthy coping mechanisms, harming our physical and emotional wellbeing in both the short and long term.

In our blogs we speak of healthy strong women taking control of their lives.  Living a life that allows intoxicants, superficial values, un-enlightened entertainment and unhealthy relationships is not living from a position of strength but of dependency and irresponsibility.  The article linked says as much about contraception.

Too often living dependent on things outside of our personal dominion is taking a big risk.  When we drink too much alcohol or take drugs we might think we are funnier, smarter or whatever the case may be.  Yet the reality is we have surrendered our self-control to intoxicants.  It is an escape from reality.

Using contraception is an escape from healthy living – it introduces chemicals and hormones into our bodies that have serious side-effects.  It is also an escape from responsibility.  Taking contraception gives us false comfort that one can have sex with zero consequences. That is always incorrect no matter if the contraception works or fails.  Sex is a big deal.

This article show both a medical and sociological effect of birth control that simply shows that yes sex is not a recreation.  “The data already indicate that even with contraceptives that act less like temporary sterilization (which is how LARCs act) we get a “sex and marriage market” in which sex becomes the price of a relationship and marriage is off the horizon even when there is an unexpected pregnancy. Women (especially poor women) become immiserated in particular. They have more unintended pregnancies, more abortions, and become single mothers or post-aborted mothers far more often.”

Read about long acting contraceptives in this fact sheet

Living a healthy life is hard work. It requires taking time to educate yourself, overcome the easy way out on lifestyle and diet, good relationship choices – or if you are even ready to have a relationship, and much more.

Marijuana has grown popular in today’s generation in spite of warnings and the many unknowns.  Just in the past few days researches found that marijuana causes your brain to age faster, that there is a link to schizophrenia and a host of other maladies.  In other words, it seems that smoking it is a big deal.

This article gives you the tips you need to be healthy especially if you might be pregnant or are sexually active.

Some takeaways: “Accidental pregnancies happen, and if someone is using drugs in the weeks before they know they’re pregnant, that could cause problems for a fetus in its most critical stages..”  and “Breast-feeding moms should avoid marijuana use, because THC, along with some other potentially psychoactive compounds in pot, gets into breast milk”.

 

Slow down. Think for Yourself. Turn the media onslaught off!  Guaranteed if you open a major website like MSN you will find a story about the royal family – every day and with nothing to say, just blah blah.  Guaranteed if you go to a pop culture or lifestyle website or TV show like ET you will find endless stories of celebrities, mostly bad relationships and an array of basically useless information. Here is a random example of a “who cares” story that bombards us endlessly.

Slow down and turn the crap off.  Websites, Movies, Reality TV and really all sorts of media outlets, websites and magazines exert a big influence on our lives – if we let them.  It is kind of weird actually – it almost seems they want us to believe a certain way or even we must…! It is a bit scary.

Take control of your life and you’ll successfully avoid bad situations or bad friends.

Yet, we are what we eat! That goes for media consumption too. So, when it comes to the most important things in life, are we creating down time to reflect and even pray about what is really, truly good for the long term. For example, relationships are a big part of pop culture news. Who is with who. Who cheated on who etc. Should we really get involved and flood our senses with this stuff? It is really sort of misleading and depressing. We have a higher calling.

Be strong and think for yourself.

Never be that consumer who consumes whatever is put in front of you. Group think and being “up to speed” on things is not important for the big picture. What is important is finding values and truths for a long-term and successful life and good relationships.

Besides who needs the mass media endlessly telling me what I should like?! I know what is best for me and it isn’t pointless stories, the next best trinket etc. Everyone eventually must find something more, deeper.  This exercise of searching for meaning and truth and lasting values is the best way to avoid bad situations. So stop, turn off media, think, avoid bad situations and find happiness.

Knowing yourself is more than half the battle.  It will help you know more about your relationship attachment style – key to happy living.

The ancient Greeks came to realize that before you can successfully engage the world, a sense of self and what makes you tick is key to future happiness. “Know thyself”.

Before engaging in any relationship this is good advice!

How do you see yourself before others, friends, acquaintances and those of the opposite sex.

For the Greeks, “know thyself” was an admonition to know your place before the gods so as not to presume too much.  It was also a way to take on too much; “how can I know other things before I know what I am about”.

It should give us pause then to analyze what our motivations and goals are.  What do I want in life – even before I enter into a close relationship?  Is this relationship and becoming close, even intimate, correspond to what my goals are, who I am?

Importantly, how do I attach myself to things and other people and why? My past has clues as to how you cling to things and others.  Men are different from women in why they form relationships.

So how do I attach to people and why?  Is it ok to try and fill a void without thinking of these things?

With this mature approach to life, sexual relationships can be put in a better context.  A calm reflection will help each to see that sex is really a long-term type of commitment, not to be taken lightly.

Read more here.

I know many people who are adult children of divorce and refuse to have children. One of the most common excuses is “My parents’ divorce caused a lot of heartache and I don’t want to risk putting my own children through the same thing”. It’s as if they are expecting their own marriages to fail because their parents’ did.

I can see why this would be a fear, but your parents’ failures do not have to be yours. My parents divorced when my brother and I were young and it caused unimaginable pain. In fact, it still does. This experience made me decide that I never wanted to cause my own family this pain. I wanted to prove to myself, and to others, that I can be better than my parents. To this day, after having five children, I don’t regret this decision.

I will be honest: the pain I felt from my parents’ divorce has affected the way I parent, some good and some not so good. I work hard every day to be better. But my kids are happy. My wife and I are happy. My brother and his family are happy. I can’t ever imagine not having my children. To be honest, I don’t think my life would be as fulfilling if I never had kids.

If you are pregnant and considering abortion because you are worried your marriage may fail, you are not alone. The pain and wounds you may still carry from your parents’ divorce does not have to etch your fate into stone. You are stronger than the past. Think of the challenges you have overcome, and the challenges we see people overcome all over the world. The human spirit is strong and meant to conquer all fears.

Abortion is only a temporary solution. The end result always come back to haunt you. If you are still set on not having children in your marriage, then consider adoption. There are married couples everywhere who cannot have their own kids, and would do anything to adopt your unborn child. Give someone else the opportunity to fulfill their dreams. Visit a free pregnancy resource center or clinic to find out what your options are!

The loss of a child is tragic and difficult, including the loss by abortion. A woman doesn’t truly know what she will experience after the loss and doing it alone is the last thing you should do. You may have had an abortion thinking it would solve your problems and help you move on, only to find that you have feelings of guilt, shame, and regret. Your body’s hormones may be out of sorts and uncontrollable due to your pregnancy ending unnaturally.  Some may tell you that this will pass, and they aren’t wrong. However, will you truly heal the way you want?

There are resources available to you and to other women who are suffering the loss of a child through abortion. Places like Hope After Abortion , Surrendering the Secret, and By Your Side LA are just a few of the resources out there. By Your Side LA will provide you with someone you can to listen to your story and find the resources you need to heal and move on peacefully. You will also learn from women who have experienced having abortions and suffered through the grieving process as well.  You will find that there is hope at the end of it. You can learn to forgive yourself and learn to look at life in a new way.

Don’t try and sweep this under the rug and deny the pain you are feeling. Even if you put on a game face and can show the world you are fine, eventually the truth finds a way to surface. Bring yourself to a pregnancy resource in your area and visit one of the websites above. You will find peace and healing.

Sometimes life feels like weights on your back… right? You’re wondering which path to follow, what would be the right decision, where the answers to your questions are, and why it seems like someone turned off your light. If only you could find the switch to turn it on again…

This is the moment to take a deep breath and start living one day at a time. While being stuck in the past will lead you into depression, and obsessing about the future will bring you anxiety, focusing on the present moment will keep your peace and hope.

There is nothing you can change or solve about neither your past nor your future.  But your present is here for you to take one little baby step at a time. You can be happy TODAY. You can take the right decision TODAY. You can find the answer that you need TODAY.  And we are here to help you strive with it.

Do not worry about tomorrow. Do not worry about yesterday. Just do what needs to be done today, and allow yourself to be healed of your past, and to be surprised by what will happen tomorrow, when the sun will rise again in its entire splendor. I promise you it will happen, if you only make the decision to allow the sun to be bright again in your life.

First off, let me welcome you to this page and say that you have come to the right place for help and resources.  Secondly, we will not judge you or make you feel ashamed for being pregnant. You are not alone in dealing with your unexpected pregnancy and these resource centers can assist you.

If you are like many of the women who are seeking our resources, you may be feeling a great deal of shame. Maybe you are ashamed about the circumstances of your getting pregnant, or ashamed that you already have children and you are afraid about what others might think.  Do these thoughts sound familiar?

“What will my boss and coworkers think? I’m up for a new promotion.”

“My husband is going to flip when I tell him I’m pregnant again.”

“My parents are going to disown me.”

If you look up the definition of “shame” you’ll read, “a: a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety; b: the susceptibility to such emotion”; a condition of humiliating disgrace or disrepute”. (Merriam-Webster, 2017). If you can relate to these words, what is really causing you to feel guilty or disgraceful? Is it your friends and family who have condemned you for getting pregnant outside of marriage? Or are you afraid of what people will think if you have another child after having a few at home already? Whatever it is, I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling. But let me tell you this: these people do not control you, nor do they know what is best for you and your child. Only you know this. Imagine what life would be like if we made important life decisions based on what others want for us, instead of what WE want for ourselves? I don’t know about you, but I would probably feel a lot of regret and would wonder, “What if I had chosen differently?”

Now, you may be wondering, “What do you know about my situation? How are you any different than the other people in my life?” Well, I have witnessed several women handle unplanned pregnancies and I can tell you there are more options available to you other than getting an abortion. You can still have your baby and finish school, move up in your career, or provide for the rest of your family. The pregnancy resource centers are full of caring people who know what it’s like to be in your situation and can help you plan your future in a healthy and productive way. Shame is a strong force that blinds the truth. Allow yourself to make an informed decision with the information provided by people who are looking out for your best interest, as well as your baby’s. You’d be surprised at how empowering it feels to have faith in yourself and reap the benefits.

Uncertainty. Shame. Disappointment. Fear. Do these words sound familiar? They are just a few of the emotions and feelings you may be experiencing after finding out you are pregnant. This is a difficult time and you are not alone in feeling like you are in the middle of a crisis. On the one hand, you may be thinking you have no choice but to get an abortion because of the effect it will have on your life and because you are worried about what others may think. While on the other hand, you may want to keep your baby but are afraid to tell the father, your family, or coworkers. Either way, you must be feeling immense pressure.

Take a deep breath and just pause. Allow your mind to slow its thoughts and focus on your breathing. Now, let’s talk about the first step—communication. Having someone to talk to during a crisis will help you keep a level head and keep your grounded. Find someone you trust who can offer sound advice and help you selflessly. Talk about your thoughts and feelings, and be honest. Your support person should be someone who can listen to you without judgement. If you don’t have someone like this in your life, or you just cannot bring yourself to talk to them, then visit one the many centers and clinics whose mission is to provide you with the help you need. Here, you will find caring and friendly people who want the best for you and have the resources to help guide you through your journey.

Communication can bring freedom from the turmoil you feel inside and the strength to keep moving forward. When you knock, doors will be opened to you, and you will find grace and beauty at the end of your journey.