Throughout our lives, we are involved in many different kinds of relationships. We have friendships, romantic relationships, work- and school-related connections, families—just to name a few. Each of these relationships has the potential to enrich our lives by adding to our sense of self-worth, enjoyment, and personal growth. These are healthy relationships.

On the other hand, there are situations where we may find ourselves feeling uncomfortable. It can be difficult to realize that a friend, colleague, or family member is not treating us with the respect we deserve. This can be even more complicated when it comes to a romantic relationship.

In a healthy relationship, you do not feel unsafe or manipulated into doing things you do not want to do (including having sex). You know that the other person treats you with respect and listens to what you have to say. There is trust and support.

An unhealthy relationship looks very different. Sometimes it is obvious—the other person may be physically abusive or bad-tempered. Other times, it can be much more subtle. If your boyfriend constantly criticizes or ridicules you, it is time to break up. If you feel that your boyfriend is controlling your money, isolating you from friends, or ignoring your boundaries regarding your body, it may be difficult, but it is time to move on.

We all want to be happy in our relationships. When it comes to romantic or sexual relationships, many of us also face pressure from family and friends. Often, a friend or family member may tell you that “it’s not that bad” or encourage you to accept mistreatment in order to “keep” your partner. They may make you feel that you will be alone or that this behavior is normal in relationships. This is simply not true.

Relationships can be healthy and enriching, but they can also be miserable experiences.

Understanding relationships better can help you make decisions that are right for you. Sometimes, you need an objective person to listen and, if necessary, offer advice. At Free Women’s Clinic, we can connect you with counselors who will listen and speak with you.